Tuesday, 2 January 2018

7 Life-lessons that I learnt in 2017


What a ride, 2017.

2017 was a year of forgiveness, growth and a year where I finally get to know myself better. It wasn't smooth sail journey. Along the way, I have lost some of my closest friends, had moments where I doubted myself too much, gone through periods of depression where my self-esteem and confidence level just went rock bottom. However I also made new friends, got closer to many, formed healthy relationships, and finally learned to pick myself up at times.

Here are 7 important life-lessons that I learned the past year.



1.) Don't take things personally
This was the key to my happiness in 2017. Yes, you read it right- in 2017 because I never realised how important this was until recently. When you take things personally, you are sensitive to the words or actions of others and will probably interpret in a very negative way and view yourself badly. When you allow this to happen, you are giving power to them by agreeing to what they say and do. Chances are, they weren't really meant to be targeted towards you in the first place.

2.) If you wait till you're ready, you'll be waiting for the rest of your life
At the back of my mind I've always believed in taking chances, but I doubt my choices and abilities way too much that I let great opportunities fly by. It was not until the past year that I realised I needed to change, so I finally put this into practise by stopping to think and care too much about the end-result, and do things that would help me grow.

3.) Quit pleasing people
The fact is, not everyone will like you and the things you do. I used to be such a people pleaser that it eventually led to toxic friendships/ relationships because no matter how much energy and effort you put in something or someone, there will always be that one person who criticises and dislikes you and even use you. Once you become aware of this, you'll realise your own value and stop pleasing people who do not deserve it.



4.) Be grateful for what you have
When you start to feel negative, think of the things you are grateful for. These things don't have to be big and expensive, but rather the small things in life; food and water you get each day, the roof you live under, or even education. Some people don't even have these basic necessities in life. A change in perspective can immediately change your mood and attitude in life.

5.) Learn to say no, if it makes you uncomfortable or unhappy in any way
This is actually quite similar to life-lesson no. 3.  As a people pleaser, I know it is extremely difficult to say 'no' sometimes, but it is your life after all, so be responsible for the choices that you make. If you only know how to say 'yes', people will use and manipulate you.

6.) Let go of perfectionism. You're mistakes and flaws do not define you
I am a firm believer that you learn and grow the most from your mistakes. Of course, that does not mean that you should allow mistakes to happen whenever, but don't knock yourself down over a small, simple mistake. Regardless of how big or small it is, they surely happened for a reason.


7.) The 5 by 5 rule
Relax. If it's not going to matter in the next 5 years, don't waste more than 5 seconds or 5 minutes or 5 hours thinking about it. I do not deal with stress very well so this rule really helped me to stop overthinking and stressing out all the time.


Alright folks. This was a lengthy post. I hope you all learned something from the past year and let's look forward to an amazing year ahead.

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Thursday, 13 April 2017

NOCTURNAL | STEPHANIE SO


A girl should always be two things: a little classy and a little sassy. For me a bodysuit, mesh top, high-waisted trousers does the trick. With Hong Kong's bipolar weather, layering is essential; it could be cold and windy this second however the next minute it gets warm and humid. Paired with a vintage corduroy jacket and faux fur clutch, this is a perfect nighttime outfit. Oh, and don't forget your red lipstick ladies! It's a game changer!






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Wednesday, 12 April 2017

SINCE 1961 | STEPHANIE SO


Old is always gold. During the cold, winter seasons I especially love to wrap up warm in a big, furry, oversized coat and wear a pair of classic, black boots.  Before the Summer waves hit Hong Kong, let's throw it back to the cooler weather and to wearing one of my favourite coats ever. This one is from Topshop and it's made from suede and faux fur.

All black outfits are always the best. Better when paired with a perfect lip colour! This one is MAC's Retro Rouge.

Oh! And I finally tried LAB MADE ice-cream. Scroll down! (Not sponsored, LOL).







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Wednesday, 5 April 2017

65 PEEL/ HO LUN JENG | STEPHANIE SO



One simply does not say no to happy hour drinks. A while ago my friend and I ventured into the ever so hipster Peel Street and went into this beer bar, translated into 'so fucking good' in Chinese and boy, let me tell you, it is fucking good. Located in soho, what 65 Peel/ Ho Lun Jeng offers is not only 12 local brews on tap plus craft beers from Japan, Taiwan, Canada and so forth, but also top notch bar foods (scroll down!) and extremely cool interiors-- 'industrial chic', shall we say?




Bar foods are always good as their small portions mean that we can try a lot without sacrificing our waistlines. I would say though, I let prettyyyyy full. Here we have the Snow Crab Cake, Lobster roll, Fried chicken and beer flight. I would say that the lobster roll and fried chicken are a must have and if you are a first timer at this place, the beer flight is the way to go!




Go give it a try!

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Sunday, 26 March 2017

THERE SHOULD BE NO END TO EXPERIMENTATION | STEPHANIE SO


Yesterday, I mentioned that I recently went to see ZAHA HADID: There Should Be No End To Experimentation, a Zaha Hadid's exhibition in ArtisTree, Hong Kong. In fact, it was only a few days ago that I went to see it. During the course of these 3 days I have already went to 4 major art exhibitions in Hong Kong, and I have to say I am well chuffed of myself because I don't think I have ever seen this much art during such a short amount of time in my life, ever before. All these walking totally killed my legs but Art Month only happens once a year and to be frank, it's the only time when art or fashion enthusiasts come out and gather together, so it's all worth it in the end. 






This exhibition is the largest to date, featuring early paintings by Zaha, an architectural pioneer and visionary. I went into the exhibition speechless, and left even more speechless. To be able to see Zaha's work and creative process in real life was truly an amazing experience. I especially loved seeing Zaha's sketchbooks; these first initial creative process felt so raw and personal. Not to mention the VR experience-- it felt like I was living in Zaha's vision and I was absolutely blown away.




This exhibition is free of charge and is opened from Mar 17 - Apr 6, 2017 at Artistree, Taikooplace. The opening hours from now on is 10:00am-21:00pm.


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